Emotional Management

27 Dec 2001

I have had past occasion to feel intensely the negative emotional states of others.  Usually it's with those to whom I have some connection or attachment (family, loved ones, friends, etc..). This of course brings to mind K12 (The Hanged Man & The Stable Intelligence). 

How does one remain emotionally "Stable" when being washed over by stormy emotional waters?

Also, From: http://www.divineparadox.com/AgelessWisdom/k12_reversal.htm

"The stilling or suspension of the mind so that one can turn within and receive knowledge. [...] This meditative state is a result of the ability to hold one's mind in a state of suspension by using the powers of self-consciousness to still the creative image making aspect of subconsciousness. However, this cannot be safely done until one has established a strong and stable personality, lest it be swept away by the strong currents of the lower subconscious. "

Feeling pulled upon by strong negative emotions?

Ask yourself:

See: http://www.divineparadox.com/Conversations/categories_of_desire.htm

RL

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Don't resist/fight it. 

Allow it to rightfully exist. 

Know it isn't yours and send good will to the source. 

Anyway, that's what i do. 

Joseph

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Yes, and this is easier to do if one is not "attached" to some preconceived state or outcome. But then, if one is not "attached", then they're probably not going to be nearly as disturbed by others' antics either.

It's only when it's GOT YOU that it becomes an issue. And if it's GOT YOU, then that's when it's important to recognize that the attachment is voluntary (like the loose looped chains in K15). So if you can recognize that the attachment is voluntary, you can freely CHOOSE not to resist, etc...

So it boils down to "what do you want?"

I think it was Ann who wrote "Freedom is the choice of one's disciplines" (attachments).

K12 shows us a state of perfect stability and freedom because the Hanged Man is attached to the only thing that's ultimately real. All else are just ephemeral breezes in the wind which swing us gently from time to time. Don't hang on to them too strongly, and don't resist them - unless one really enjoys swinging. 

Hmmmm, maybe we swing because we like it? To remain perfectly "stable" in a static way would be like death.

Another paradox.

The solution to this paradox may be in looking at POV (point of view). The goal is not to stop the pendulum, but to rise from the bob to the fulcrum. Then the world swings around you.

Swing'in

I like to swing
I like to flit

up through clouds,
and down through shit.

I get too dizy
so down I sit.

The ride's too rough!
Let's change it a bit.

Do I shorten the rope
and give up hope

of hitting those highs
and feeling those skies?

Nope. Don't be a Prozac dope!

What if I just push it less
make less of a mess?

Yes, but ...

Where's the fun in that?
Moving little, sitting pat?
Take no chances - just get fat?
Acting "normal" - like a rat-race rat?

I've got an idea,
here's what I'll do

Let's climb the rope,
we'll get our view.

Climb the beanstalk?
Steal the goose?
Take the harp
and Let music loose?

Wanna be a hero, eh?

It's known that all heroes must face death.
For the cause, give their last breath.

Giant finds you, then you're dead.
Grind your bones to make his bread.

Big bad ego don't scare me at all.
Bigger they is, harder they fall.

The Tower must fall to return safe, that's true.
But that which must tumble is the ego in YOU.

Then eyes will be opened
and the view be unfurled

For You will find Your Self
at the Center of the World.

RL

Laughing from the top of the tower,
Fee, Fi, Fo ..
                 wh
                       o
                        o
                         p
                         s!

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28 Dec 2001

Just went to see the new movie "A Beautiful Mind" starring Russel Crowe. It is a very interesting depiction of schizophrenia, where he had 3 hallucinatory "friends".  In the movie his character (John Nash) eventually recovers from his delusions after he kindly addressed his imaginary (delusional) friends and bid them farewell.  After that point, while they still appeared, he was able to deal with reality by recognizing them and not feeding them by giving them his energy and attention. 

At the end of the movie, where John Nash is speaking at his Nobel prize inauguration, he states that although there is a place for "logic" (he was a genius mathematician) he credits his wife's love for him for bringing him back from schizophrenia and making him what he turned out to be.  The message is that her love was his anchor, attachment, or mooring which kept him "Stable" during his years of dealing with schizophrenia.

This scene was a reminder to me of the message of Tarot Key 12 - Exactly.

RL

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Oh Seers into the Darkness:

Many years ago I read a statement about the path I did not fully
understand. It was enigmatic yet fascinating because of its subtle
promise. I repeat it for you:

We negotiate the Path through emotional management!  J.N.

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What a joke. I manage nothing! I am the subject of the work, not the do'er.

Here's my experience - The serpent  of sensation, tempts me into actions from which I learn discrimination.

In other words, I have to go through the experience of reacting emotionally, getting attached emotionally, and feeling all manner of emotions. After awhile, I learn to see what's going on behind the "appearances" of these "things" that pushed my buttons. As a result, those things which "used" to push me out of balance emotionally, no longer do so, because my newfound sight changes the "meaning" of the situation for me.

So, to me, one does not manage emotions. Instead when we learn to see what's really going on, the emotions will follow, and respond in kind. Of course if we're reacting with strong emotion out of attachment to a false image, then it will be very hard to see. So we go through it, and then next time we're more highly motivated to try and see what's really going on behind the mask. When we can discern the face of the beloved behind the mask, then we WILL respond emotionally to our one true beloved, and then our emotions will help to propel us along the path.

So the only "management" that one does is to remind themselves to keep looking deeply to try and find out what's really going on. Then as shown by keys 1-8-15, the woman (K8) will take care of the Red Lion.

If we keep looking (for the Love behind the mask), then she'll take care of the emotional management part.

Lookin for Love in all the wrong places,

JC